When I was a child of 11 years of age, my father passed away and I learned about the shortness of life and the importance of living it to the fullest. During the ages of about 18 to 28, I experienced a moment in which I lost all hope, which then led to an inexplicable awakening through which I found the faith I have today. It should be no surprise then, that as I transition into becoming a 28-year old woman starting the rest of my life in Houston, I will have to learn about love…and a smooth sea never made a skillful sailor.
I have always preached of love, the universal kind that connects with every soul and shows compassion to all others, but today I want to talk about a different kind of love- a marriage kind of love. To me, this love is 2 people with big hearts and a special soul connection who are kind, romantic, sweet and caring towards one another and make compromises and sacrifices without keeping count or having expectations; they are one team and never against each other. They trust each other to never leave or betray one another because their love is committed unconditionally forever like family, and they are free to be openly themselves without worry or offense because they are also best friends. They are equal in their roles as husband and wife, and respect one another even during disagreements, constantly lifting each other up instead of putting each other down. They share roles and responsibilities, joys and sorrows, laughter and life’s simple moments of silence.
“Marriage is about becoming a team. You’re going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you picked the right person and you both love each other, you’ll always figure out a way to get through it.” -Nicholas Sparks
At least, this is the type relationship I believe in. Every relationship in the world has good and bad days; it would be silly not to understand that disagreements are inevitable. However, what matters is how two imperfect people learn about themselves and each other, and continue to grow together despite their setbacks. I also firmly believe that no one can ever control another person or change a situation completely; the only person you can control is yourself. All you can do is work on your end to let go of past pains & better yourself, communicate your needs and desires to your partner, and trust God to work His magic and provide a relationship of complete trust and respect- for me, these are the foundations of a successful relationship, and I think the rest will fall into place as I am learning to love.